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A Bundle of Myrrh

"My beloved is unto me as a bundle of myrrh." Song of Solomon 1:13

Archive for the ‘Marriage’ Category

Your Daddy The Hero

Thursday, February 12th, 2015

 

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The other night while I cooked supper I put on one of my favorite pick me up jams, “I Need a Hero.”

And you girls danced and sang. I might have too a little. How could I not? Listen to those drums!

I remember this song from when I was your age Lily and the times I’ve hummed it, sang it, bopped around to it here and there throughout the years. I remember the waiting. Waiting for my “hero” and wondering if there would ever be one for me. And I want you to know that I’m glad I waited because he finally came. God in His wisdom brought just the hero I needed.

My hero was your Daddy.

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He wasn’t a knight on a fiery stead, he wasn’t larger than life, or superman, he was better.

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He was a sinner whom the Holy Spirit has called by the Gospel, enlightened with His gifts, and sanctified and kept in the true faith. A man that could look at married life and see that indeed it holds many “insignificant, distasteful, and despised duties,” but in the Spirit was aware that these duties “are all adorned with divine approval as with the costliest gold and jewels.” (Thank you Luther.)

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More on the Pastor’s Family

Tuesday, October 28th, 2014

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Marriage was given to man and woman right from the beginning. And God blessed the man and woman and said be fruitful, multiply. The family is the foundation of civilization. Martin Luther had much to say about this. In our marriages and families is where Satan loves to attack all of us. We see these institutions belittled, hated, mocked and “redefined” all around us.

So this is another reason I’ve been so glad to bring all of you more on the pastor’s wives and families. We should praise the institutions of marriage and family whenever we get the chance. Yes they bring crosses, all of God’s gifts bring crosses, but these have become holy crosses for the Christian to bear.

Marriage and family are great blessings from God. Luther pointed the church back to that truth especially by example when he himself finally took a wife!

I asked my sweet friend Jenny to share her perspective on her life as a pastor’s wife. Here is what she shared.

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Our Seventh Anniversary

Sunday, October 19th, 2014

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October 19th is here again and Phil and I celebrate the blessing of 7 years of marriage!

Reminisce with me on how it all got started and read “Our Love Story” again or get a feast for your eyes with our First Year set to music, kind of like it was in my mind those first 12 months (hope that link works). And if you’re wondering why I love this man you can read “Let Me Count the Ways.”

“God’s word is actually inscribed on one’s spouse. When a man looks at his wife as if she were the only woman on earth, and when a woman looks at her husband if he were the only man on earth; yes, if no king or queen, not even the sun itself sparkles any more brightly and lights up your eyes more than your own husband or wife, then right there you are face to face with God speaking.

God promises to you your wife or husband, actually gives your spouse to you saying, ‘The man shall be yours. I am pleased beyond measure! Creatures earthly and heavenly are jumping for joy.’ For there is no jewelry more precious than God’s Word; through it you come to regard your spouse as a gift of God and, as long as you do that, you have no regrets” Martin Luther

Happy Anniversary Lovie, I’m thankful God made you mine.

Life for A Pastor’s Wife

Friday, October 17th, 2014

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There are many hardships that come with being married to a pastor. Kelly and Rebekah have written about a lot of those on their blogs:

Dear Pastor’s Wife
Keeping Quiet for the Sake of the Kingdom: The Bleeding Heart of Silent Martyrdom
And Gifted with Goodness and Mercy

There is often discussion on the ongoing battle of “balance” a pastor must have. He has to learn how much to give of his time, splitting himself between his congregation and his wife and family. Catholics hold this up as a great problem and one of their reasons for priests to remain celibate. If the balance is off and a wife feels pushed to the side there can be a lot of resentment and anger and strife in the home. A wife can be frustrated with church members who fail to respect a pastor’s time with his family and a congregation can be mad about how little time they think pastor gives them. Seems reasonable that a man in the ministry should not be married.

Why would marriage be good for a pastor, for his wife, his children and for his congregation?

Simply put, because God has made marriage, God has made man for marriage and as Luther says, “It is a school for life.”

Marriage is necessary for most men. Without it sin is given a great occasion to ruin and scandalize them. Remaining celibate and content is a very rare gift. Therefore, let pastors be married.

A married pastor knows the crosses of married life, he knows the gifts of wife and children. Marriage teaches him how to sacrifice for others, how to lead, how to discipline.

Through marriage and family a pastor can be an example to his flock. He can show them how sinful men care for, guide, love and nurture their families in spite of themselves.

Good things come with marriage. Life for a pastor is lonely, it’s isolating. He can be beat down emotionally and spiritually week after week. Weary of bearing burdens or being unappreciated. And God gives him a family. A family that, hopefully, gives him the support, love, comfort and strength that a loving heavenly Father knows he needs.

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