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A Bundle of Myrrh

"My beloved is unto me as a bundle of myrrh." Song of Solomon 1:13

Let Me Count the Ways

February 13th, 2014 by Aubri



It’s sometimes hard for me to find the words to tell you how much I love you and why I love you. I love you because you are my husband but also because of who you are. I know we can marry “anyone” but anyone else would not have been you and I am thankful that God gave me you.

Why do I love YOU?

I love you because you are committed to what is good even when it isn’t an easy path. This is getting very hard to find these days. It serves you well as a pastor and head of a family. I know it can’t be easy especially if you make a decision that is right, but not liked. I know I can count on you to be strong in your decisions and not blown about or pressured into those that are not wise. Thank you for being a man of your word and committed to God’s Word and Truth.



I love how you make me feel like a real woman with your leadership, with your love and with your words of kindness when I’m BIG with a baby (and even without one). Thank you for being the man God made you. Thank you for taking the responsibilities, the headship. Thank you for making the sacrifices that come with being a man.

I love that you desire to do what is best for our family. I trust you to make good decisions. I don’t have to worry about you setting any of your “grand plans” before us. I know that you will consider our family’s needs before your own, or more importantly, our needs, yours and mine as man and wife. I know it’s not easy.

I love that you desire to have “many” children. Not all men are so willing.


I love that you desire to provide for our family, even if that means buying and driving the “Swagger Wagon” and pushing the studly Baby Train. Not all men would sport those wheels as proudly as you do. Not only are you willing to provide for them, but you take care of them, through discipline, play and work. Your a man of commitment and faithfulness. I thank God for you.

I love that you are a planner, you think about the future and prepare for it as best as you can. I’m thankful to know how much you’ve already prepared for us. I know we don’t put our trust in such things, but it is wise to prepare as we are able to and be smart with our money, not wasteful. Thank you for not being foolish with what we have been given. Thank you for thinking about our future and our children’s future. Thank you for all the other details of life you plan for as well, for the simple outings to the big vacations. Your thinking ahead and preparing for these events is a blessing to me.

I love that you are eager to learn new things. I’ve always admired that you find something you don’t know about and jump right into it. You have such a good mind. It amazes me how much you’ve taught yourself about finances, taxes and brewing. Your ability to educate yourself has even benefited your brothers and sisters in Christ in the churches you pastor through your well thought out plans for their future. And you’ve also helped your brother pastors through your studies. I know sometimes I don’t like all the time it takes to research and write and that it consumes you, but I know it is for a great good. Thank you for being willing to use your mind for the good of others.

I love that you have many hobbies to enjoy, your fishing, basketball, brewing and the tinkering that we all benefit from. It is important that you find time to do things outside of work, thank you for keeping these things in your life. It makes me proud to hear you talk with others about your brewing, all the knowledge you have collected over the years and time you invest into it is admirable, something you can be proud of too.

I love that you keep some physical activity in your life and a sport that you can teach our children to play and hopefully enjoy together. I’m proud of your Engineering skills too. I’m amazed at your ability to figure things out, rig them in ways that become useful to all of us.


I love that you take care of me. You make sure we have time together or that I have some time to myself. You make these things happen, not just think about them. Thank you for all the times you’ve called people to watch our babies and made those arrangements I find so unpleasant. Thank you for letting me get things for the house that I just find nice, nothing vital, but nice. Thank you for trying to make sure I get rest and exercise. Thank you for caring about my health. I guess that means you want me around for a while, or your just scared of what would happen if I weren’t!

I love that you are helpful to those in need. You care about people and help them in real ways. I’ve seen you go out of your way to give of your time, resources and talents to others. It makes me proud that you give like that even when there are no “thank yous”.

I love that you are “outgoing” even though it is against your nature. I’m terrible at that but you charge ahead to meet someone new. I need that and our children need that. You push me to do things that I find uncomfortable and I’m usually happy I’ve done them. It will serve our family well to be “outgoing” so thank you for pushing yourself as well to be this way.

I love that you play. You can be silly, that’s important to me. You can be childlike. That was the only thing I had questions about before we got married, if you could laugh at things and be silly and play with our children. I knew that as silly as I am, I tend to take things too seriously sometimes. So I needed that. And as much trouble as I’ve been you’ve always had the ability to “laugh” things off and bring me back to reality. Thank you for not holding on to things, but for moving on. Thank you for laughing with our babies and with me.

I love that you keep me on the right track when I’m prone to wander, to doubt to wallow in self-pity you bring me back to truth.

I LOVE that YOU are the Daddy of my babies. They have bits of YOU in them. I am happy about that. These things I love about you I hope to see in them someday. I love that sometimes I already see a flash of you across Clara’s face or you in Lily’s eyes. How Esther see herself when she looks at your baby pictures. I pray our boys will grow to be men like you; of good character, good husbands, good fathers and faithful servants of Christ.


 I love You, I love being your wife and the mother of your children!

Love is not passion. It is the pulse of sacrifice.
There are no standing lovers: the only way to love is to lay down.
Lay down plans. Lay down agendas. Lay down self.
Love is always the laying down.
This is how to make love out of a marriage: Love lays down it’s own wants to lift up the will of another.
Love let’s go of it’s plans — to hold on to a person.”

Ann Voskamp

5 Responses to “Let Me Count the Ways”

  1. Rebekah says:

    “There are no standing lovers; the only way to love is to lay down……” That is probably my favorite Ann Voskamp line ever! I remember that one from a post about her husband. I have to tell you, I laughed out loud at the part about appreciating how your husband encourages you to exercise and the line about maybe he’s just afraid of what like would be life if you weren’t around, Lol. (not that dying would be funny in the slightest). My husband is the same way with me. He gets concerned about my physical health and is always encouraging me to do some strength exercises so I”m not an old lady in ten years. (already look and feel like one though in a lot of ways 🙂 )

  2. Aubri says:

    I can’t agree with Ann Voskamp on everything, but sometimes she just speaks truth so beautifully doesn’t she? I’m with you on what life could be like in 10 years if I don’t start taking more care of my health! I don’t eat too poorly but with arthritis and lots of pregnancies my body is hurting more than it’s helping me most of the time! 🙂 So I’m working on getting in better shape.

    Since I’m sure your like me with saying “when do I find the time to do that?” and I’ll recommend you try Jillian Micheal’s 30 day shred, it’s just about 25 minutes and level one is free on youtube.

    I’ve started doing that almost everyday for about a week now, kills me but worth it! Maybe someday I’ll actually buy level 2….maybe.

  3. Rebekah says:

    Thanks! Yes, I totally agree on the “when in the world is this going to work out for me to work out” thing. I like Jillian Michaels. I don’t get bored with her. And I feel like it actually works because I”m so dang sore afterwards.

  4. Emily says:

    Beautiful, beautiful post, Aubri! Your words about your DH make me love MY husband more. Thanks for this…I miss you! 🙂

  5. Aubri says:

    Oh thank you Emily. I miss you too, really wanted to see you at the getaway!