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A Bundle of Myrrh

"My beloved is unto me as a bundle of myrrh." Song of Solomon 1:13

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Breakin’ All the Rules

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

I just read this very interesting article on how we feed babies in America verses other countries/cultures. It’s 4 years old so I’d be interested to see how/if research has progressed. You can read it here:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/9646449/

We started giving Clara cereal at 3 months and I did have some guilt about that since everyone says don’t do it until 4 months or better, wait until 6 months. But she handled it well and seemed to like it so I went on to veggies at 4 months with her. I asked our doctor about this and he said that was ok. She’s a much better eater than Lily was (and is!). I don’t think we did anything “wrong” with Lily. I’m still not sure why she is as picky as she is, I guess that’s just her, but I do wonder sometimes.

All the older ladies here told me they’d started their babies on solids at 1 month then by 6 months their babies were on table food. The books and articles I’d read warned that older generations would say this and we should ignore them since we know better now, that babies digestive functions are still immature etc. Since I’m not a doctor (I don’t even play one on tv) I just trusted that the “experts” I’d read knew what they’re talking about so I better be very cautious about everything the girls ate. This article says there doesn’t seem (scientifically) to be a “right” or wrong way to feed your babies if you use common sense. I’m glad it points out how feeding is done in other cultures. That is something that I’ve often thought about.

Anyway, this is just one more topic in baby raising that I tend to way “over think” and make more complicated than it should be. So I thought I’d share and see if any of you have “broken the rules” when feeding your babies!

Halloween Blues.

Thursday, October 29th, 2009


I called my mom today to whine about living where it will be perpetually COLD on Halloween night. Where it’s cold babies have to wear coats and probably hats if they have good mamas, neither of which do much for an adorable and well planned Halloween costume. So we’re doomed to only dress up as Molly the Mountain Climber or Susy the Snowman if we want to stay warm and be able to show off. I should have just gone with one of those woolly baby suit costumes that always looked way too warm while I was in Texas. They’re cute, easy and key word here….WARM. Oh well. I’ll be better prepared next year I hope!

John Rosemond’s Six Point Plan.

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009


Phil and I just ordered three books by John Rosemond who I mentioned in a previous post, the family psychologist who according to his website “no longer even “believes” in psychology, calling it a “largely disingenuous secular religion that has fostered more discord and disharmony in the American family than any other single contemporary force except, perhaps, television.” .

We’re reading these books together in the evenings when we can. We just finished “point #1” of Rosemond’s 6 points. He writes:

…the secret to raising happy, healthy children is to give more attention to the marriage than you give to the children. If you succeed at that, your children will turn out just fine.

His focus is on the family as a “unit” and putting priorities in the proper order within the family. This isn’t something I’ve heard very much from the “experts” I tend to turn to ie The Internet. I often do come across advise to not neglect yourself or your marriage, but I haven’t heard that it should be priority #1 which absolutely makes sense. (He makes a similar application to a single parent stating that they should establish an identity for themselves that has nothing to do with their children.) My marriage is the most important relationship in my life and if Phil and I do our jobs right, the kids will be gone someday and we’ll keep truckin’ along together. If we pour all we are into our babies what will we do once they’re gone and have families of their own? He says this problem is why so many couples in their 40s and 50s tend to divorce. They’ve neglected their marriage while they devoted themselves to their children, grew apart, then have nothing to give each other.

In a two-parent family, the marriage must come first. After all, the marriage created the family, and the marriage sustains it. The marriage preceded the children, and is meant to succeed them. If you don’t put your marriage first, and keep it there, it’s likely to become a mirage.

I think that deserves to be followed with an “Oh, snap!”

Diaperbag Blues.

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

Ok, so I’m getting a hang on packing or over packing my diaper bag when we’re out with the girls. I know now, lots of wipes, plenty of diapers and burp clothes and a change of clothes for them, but I learned today that Mama may need a change of clothes too after one explosive poopy diaper from sweet Clara from which she was unscathed. So, just throw an extra t-shirt in the car when you leave next time…just in case.